I think that conversation took place 6 or 7 years ago and I still haven't read Townsend and Cloud's book. Well, at least not the original. I'm currently working my way through Boundaries with Kids and Boundaries for Teens. And, I still need to work on developing good boundaries for myself.
I'm one of those individuals, that for whatever reason, needs a wide span of personal space... both physically and emotionally. I'm not big on standing close, touching or hugging nor I am thrilled with people who find me to be their only friend and want to be together 24/7. For some people, this is as foreign to them as if I were green with pink polka dots and I find myself avoiding these types of people because it's easier than explaining myself to them over and over again. The flip side, though, is that I enjoy being around people and have been blessed abundantly with incredible friendships. Thus, my personal space issue is a hard one to regulate....
The question I've posed to the LORD lately is this... is there a way that personal boundaries (both physical and emotional) can coexist with grace giving? In other words, can I be a grace giver without sacrificing my need for physical and emotional space?
Then Jesus said to his disciples,
“Whoever wants to be my disciple must
deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.
For whoever wants to save their life will lose it,
but whoever loses their life for me will find it."
When it's all said and done, it's the "deny yourself" part that I struggle with the most....